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Find a role model

Problem

If you don’t have a strong model of confidence in your life, you might not know what a confident person truly looks, sounds, and acts like.

Why it is bad

We tend to emulate our role models, so if you don’t have a confident role model in your life, you’re not likely to feel that way yourself.

Solution

Find someone with a lot of self-confidence that you’d like to mirror - a friend, colleague, or family member. Observe them and notice how they behave when they’re being confident. How do they move? How do they speak? What do they say? How do they act when confronted with a challenge or mistake? Talk to them to learn how they stay so confident and sure of themselves.

Benefits

When you’re around other people who are confident it can make you feel more confident. Their confidence will rub off on you. They can also teach you what works for them.

How To Choose A Role Model & Mentor (Not What You'd Expect)

Take action to feel competent

Problem

You might be down on yourself because you’re stuck, stagnant, and not taking action.

Why it is bad

Inertia results in low self-confidence. Procrastination is a self-defeating behavior. It’s caused by an underlying feeling of self-doubt. Really, it stems from distrust in yourself. You might be labeled as lazy, but either way, it brings your self-confidence way down.

Solution

Break the cycle by taking one small step. Whether it’s an unhealthy relationship, an unfulfilling job, or even just chores or a work project, just go deal with it. At least, take the first step in handling an unsatisfying situation or condition. Let go of your inner critic and fear of judgment. Then do it again and again.

Benefits

When you take action, you not only deflate the inner skeptic but you become and feel competent. This fuels our self-belief and makes us more confident.

4 Ways to Start Taking Action If You’re Deeply Insecure

Volunteer

Problem

You might be unsatisfied with your life and feeling down on yourself because you’re disconnected from others and lacking purpose in your life.

Why it is bad

Feeling unfulfilled and without purpose can really bring you down. If you’re not engaging in meaningful activities or giving back to or connecting with your community, you’ll probably feel isolated and unaccomplished. This damages your self-esteem and self-worth.

Solution

Volunteer in your community. Make connections through satisfying service to others. Help at an animal shelter, soup kitchen, or pick up trash. If you don’t have time to volunteer, make a donation.

Benefits

Meaningful giving makes you feel connected to others, instills a sense of pride and identity, and even keeps you physically healthy. All of these benefits are a boost to your self-confidence and self-esteem. You’ll feel better about yourself, which will cause you to have a more positive view of your life.

What are the benefits for the volunteer?

Be accountable

Problem

You might not take accountability because you’re afraid of punishment or the feeling of failure. Refusing accountability can damage your self-esteem.

Why it is bad

Avoiding responsibility doesn’t eliminate mistakes. You’re just wasting energy trying to prevent the inevitability of making mistakes. If you can’t be accountable and thus learn from your mistakes, you might feel like a failure.

Solution

Accept that - just like a baby learning to walk is going to fall down - making mistakes is part of the learning process. Acknowledge mistakes by saying: “This situation is a result of my actions, so it is something I can handle.” Forgive yourself and reduce the pressure to be perfect. Don’t forget to advocate for yourself when you’re falsely blamed.

Benefits

By being accountable, we take the pressure off ourselves. When we honor consequences, we learn how to better get through them. Overall, you’ll feel more confident.

Hold Yourself Accountable And Never Be Held Back | Janyssa Berrios | TEDxYouth@Lancaster

Learn something new

Problem

You might be feeling critical of yourself or low on confidence because you haven’t learned a new skill lately.

Why it is bad

People who refuse to learn new things will find themselves falling behind - in work, school, and eventually, in life. When you stop learning, you risk feeling useless, unproductive, and stagnant. Obviously, this will harm your self-esteem.

Solution

Why not learn something new? Whether it’s for work or for pleasure, decide what you want to learn to do, then set aside time every day or week to practice. Take a class, learn a new language, or master a new recipe. Whatever it is, there’s likely a free online course or video for it. If it’s for professional development, see if your work will cover any fees involved.

Benefits

Personal achievement and valuable skills breed confidence and provide people with purpose. Learning a new skill nurtures positive feelings about yourself.

The first 20 hours -- how to learn anything | Josh Kaufman | TEDxCSU

How to Learn Something New Like an Expert

Talk to strangers when you’re feeling insecure

Problem

You might be feeling insecure or lacking meaningful connection in your life because you’re not talking to enough strangers.

Why it is bad

If we only talk to people we already know, we retreat further into our existing social bubbles. This actually makes us less extroverted and less likely to challenge our assumptions. This sets us deeper into our patterns - particularly self-defeating ones.

Solution

When you’re out and about - on the bus, in the grocery store line, or at the park - start a conversation with someone. You can start small by talking to the barista at the coffee shop, or just saying “Hi” or asking, “How are you?”. As you get more comfortable, it’ll be easier to strike up a conversation with the people around you.

Benefits

Engaging in conversations with strangers has so many benefits! It breaks habits of insecurity and makes you feel more outgoing and personable. This contributes to a more confident self.

7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone | Malavika Varadan | TEDxBITSPilaniDubai

6 Tips to Increase Your Confidence | How To Talk Speak To Anyone | Overcome Social Anxiety

Drop the gender stereotypes

Problem

Holding onto and believing in gender stereotypes could be holding you back, making you feel like you can’t do something.

Why it is bad

Gender stereotypes might keep you from trying something or doing your best because you assume you won’t be good at it. These stereotypes distort our views of ourselves and others. They cause you to place unnecessary limitations on yourself that harm your self-confidence.

Solution

Ditch those gender stereotypes and do what you want! Don’t let gender stereotypes - notions like men are better at math or women are better communicators - get in your way. Ignore them. Accept the challenge and believe in your own abilities. Prove to yourself that gender has no bearing on your success.

Benefits

When you drop gender stereotypes, you let go of self-limiting beliefs about yourself and your abilities. It’ll allow you to take on new challenges and develop to your fullest potential.

GENDER: What can I do to challenge gender stereotypes?

Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable

Problem

If you refuse to partake in anything that might make you feel uncomfortable, you’ll never expand your comfort zone.

Why it is bad

If your comfort zone always remains the same, you’re holding yourself back. You’re denying yourself opportunities to grow, have positive experiences, and improve self-esteem and self-belief.

Solution

Broaden your comfort zone by doing something every day that pushes the boundaries of your comfort. Talk to a stranger on your work commute or try a new activity. Write down what makes you uncomfortable, make a goal to overcome it, tell someone you know so you’re more accountable, and take little steps into the discomfort.

Benefits

When we expand our comfort zone, we grow and our confidence grows with us. Every time we stretch that zone, even a little, it leads to something bigger. As we overcome more fears and discomfort, we start to feel unstoppable.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi Jones

Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable | Harlan Cohen | TEDxUrsulineCollege

Conquer a personal challenge

Problem

If you’re feeling defeated or unempowered in your life, it could be because you haven’t conquered a personal challenge lately.

Why it is bad

Feeling weak, unempowered, or intimidated can make a person miserable. Giving into your fear of something or ignoring a challenge because it’s hard causes a constant sense of defeat, and feeling defeated brings us way down.

Solution

Whether it’s doing something you’re afraid to try - like going bungee jumping - or tackling a difficult task, or successfully creating a new habit - like saving money every week - just do it! Overcome a challenge when you feel defeated to prove to yourself you are worthy and capable. When you feel resistance about handling a tough situation, go deal with it as soon as you can.

Benefits

Overcoming challenges and fears empowers, motivates, and strengthens us. This, in turn, raises our confidence level. Completing something that has intimidated us tests our abilities and proves to ourselves we can do hard things.

How to Face and Overcome Challenges | Eckhart Tolle Teachings

Create powerful requests

Problem

People tend to mask their need for help when they lack confidence. If you need help you might feel like it shows your vulnerability or weakness.

Why it is bad

If you’re too afraid to ask for help when you need it, you might feel powerless. People who already have low confidence think that making requests draws more attention to their vulnerable state.

Solution

Try making powerful requests. It’s actually a strength to ask for help when you need it. Start by asking something small of someone who is likely to respond positively to it. Over time, make more robust requests of others. It should make your heart race and palms sweat, but that’s a sign of progress!

Benefits

The process of making powerful requests helps you create a foundation for self-confidence. And the more powerful the requests you make, the more opportunities you create for yourself - personally and professionally.

Getting What You Want: Making Clear, Powerful Requests

Eliminate blame

Problem

When you’re pointing the finger at others, or habitually blaming yourself when something doesn’t go as planned, you’re shifting focus from the task or situation at hand.

Why it is bad

When you blame yourself or others when something goes wrong, you’re assigning judgment instead of finding solutions.

Solution

Focus on finding solutions and dealing with the situation rather than trying to find someone to blame. Take an objective perspective, evaluate the facts, and then think about what you could do the next time you face similar circumstances.

Benefits

When you eliminate blame, you empower yourself because you’re focused on solutions, not who’s guilty. In time, you’ll notice how this ability will improve your self-confidence.

HOW TO STOP SELF-BLAME | Why You Always Blame Yourself When Things Go Wrong | Wu Wei Wisdom

Set goals to boost feeling of self-worth

Problem

Self-doubt poorly affects your confidence level. If you’re doubting yourself and feeling a lack of focus or control, your self-esteem will surely suffer.

Why it is bad

Without the direction and focus that goals provide, you might be left feeling distracted, unaccomplished, and uncertain about the path of your life. These emotions are unsettling and stressful. And this all leads to self-doubt and low self-esteem.

Solution

Take back control of your life by setting goals. Start with small, realistic goals that you know you can accomplish. Write down your list of goals, each with defined steps to put in your calendar. Be sure to make them measurable so you can track your progress and actually see the tangible results and improvements. Revisit your list of goals daily to focus your attention and stay productive.

Benefits

Working toward achieving goals boosts feelings of self-worth and increases your confidence. Goals provide you with a specific plan for each day, which gives you clarity and purpose. Making progress on goals, no matter how small, motivates and energizes you - and boosts confidence!

Setting Goals and Building Self Confidence | Brian Tracy

How To Build Self-Confidence Through Goal Setting

Be brutally honest with yourself

Problem

You might be struggling with poor self-esteem if you’re not being honest with yourself and accepting yourself for who you are.

Why it is bad

You’ll never be fully confident if you don’t own, accept, and feel comfortable with who you truly are. If you’re lying to yourself about your hobbies, interests, skills, friendships, career, etcetera, or just trying to fit in, you’re not being your true self.

Solution

It’s time to get real. Analyze every aspect of your life and ask yourself - “Is this me? Do I really enjoy this?”. Take time to find what you genuinely love and enjoy, and then do more of it! Do more of whatever makes you feel like your true self, more of what makes you feel good and confident.

Benefits

When you’re honest with yourself, you come to accept and even love yourself. You can enjoy life more and be happier in your own skin.

Being Honest with Yourself | Jordan Peterson

Why We Should Be Brutally Honest With Ourselves | Sarah Shevaun Ritikos | TEDxUoSM

Do things you are good at

Problem

You might be lacking confidence because you’re not regularly doing the things you know you’re good at.

Why it is bad

If you’re not engaging in things you know you’re good at you’re unable to further strengthen those skills and you’re also missing opportunities to boost your confidence level.

Solution

For an instant confidence boost, first, identify what you’re good at and then frequently engage in that activity to become even better at it. If you already know what you’re good at, do it more! If you’re good at a certain sport or playing an instrument, make a habit of practicing or training at least once a week.

Benefits

When you do things you’re good at, your confidence soars and your strengths improve even more. This increases your self-belief and your level of satisfaction with your life. Basically, building on your strengths builds your confidence.

How Do I Know What I'm Good at? Finding Your Super Power

Embrace your superstitions and rituals

Problem

You might be missing opportunities to quell anxiety and improve confidence if you laugh at superstitions like good luck charms, thinking they have no effect on the outcomes of a situation.

Why it is bad

Believing that good luck charms or pre-game rituals are irrational and silly could be a missed opportunity to boost your confidence. This is because it’s proven that superstitions actually enhance performance.

Solution

If you have a lucky shirt or another object you believe brings you luck - wear it or carry it with you when you need extra confidence. If you have a ritual or series of actions you like to do before you undertake something important, do it! Embrace your superstitions like these. Consider adopting one if you don’t have any.

Benefits

Good luck tokens or rituals like these lead to improved performance, setting loftier goals, and decreased anxiety. They also increase confidence. The power of belief is immeasurable.

Where do superstitions come from? - Stuart Vyse

The Confidence Ritual | Brindha Nagarajan | TEDxMITID

Reflect on your accomplishments

Problem

You might be lacking confidence because you never spend any time praising yourself for your own accomplishments. Not taking the time to do this can lead to low self-esteem and negatively affect your overall confidence.

Why it is bad

If you don’t reflect on your personal achievements - and truly value them - you won’t value yourself either. And if you don’t value yourself, you’ll lack confidence in yourself.

Solution

You know how bosses motivate their employees by praising them for their good work and accomplishments? In this way, you need to take note of your own accomplishments - write them down or say them out loud - and give yourself praise for all you’ve achieved. Pat yourself on the back, even! For a powerfully positive effect on your unconscious mind, do this before bed.

Benefits

When you know what you’ve accomplished and are proud of it, you’ll have the confidence to talk about yourself to colleagues, friends, and even strangers. Valuing your own accomplishments provides you with a sense of pride that will boost your confidence.

Take a Break And Reflect On Your Achievements | Sassi Talks |

Dress to impress yourself

Problem

If you’re always wearing loungewear, unshowered, unkempt, and with your hair a mess you’re not going to feel good.

Why it is bad

How you feel about yourself is reflected in your appearance. It’s ok to be comfortable and a little unkempt in your own home, but if you always hang out in your pajamas, you won’t ever feel confident.

Solution

When you go out, have an interview or meeting, or are just feeling insecure, shower, do your hair, and get dressed to impress. Practice proper hygiene, ensure you’re well-groomed, and wear clean clothing that fits properly. Put a little effort into your appearance and look professional. Then get ready to tackle those challenges or goals!

Benefits

When you know you look great, you feel great too. It’s not about trying to impress others, it’s about what you’re communicating to yourself. Putting time into yourself tells you that you’re worth it.

how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

Practice empathy

Problem

Showing empathy is a skill and if you’re not practicing it, your self-confidence might be suffering.

Why it is bad

If you can’t show empathy to others, you certainly won’t be empathic with yourself. This can lead to thoughts and behaviors that are harmful to your confidence.

Solution

Empathy is like a muscle - it needs to be exercised to be strengthened. Start to try to see the world from other peoples’ perspectives. Check in with someone, ask about someone’s well being, and try to see the world as if you were truly in their shoes. Acknowledge others and their feelings. Show kindness toward others, especially in their times of need.

Benefits

When you show empathy to others, and demonstrate that you care and respect their position and struggles, it makes them feel good and it makes you feel good about yourself. Your connections with people will improve and you’ll find that your confidence will skyrocket.

The confidence to turn empathy into action | Emily Milan Rea | TEDxLondon

Avoid the mirror

Problem

Spending too much time in front of the mirror focusing on your physical appearance can make you more anxious and less happy.

Why it is bad

Staring at yourself in the mirror analyzing imperfections or dwelling on what you see as flaws can have a harmful effect on self-esteem. We tend to be our own worst critics, so looking at yourself in the mirror gives you more opportunity to bully yourself.

Solution

Help yourself by avoiding the mirror or significantly reducing the amount of time you spend looking in the mirror. Start by keeping track of how often you look in the mirror as well as the length of time. From there, start to limit mirror-gazing. Also, consider reducing the number of mirrors in your home.

Benefits

As you become less concerned with how you look, your confidence will grow. When you stop focusing on your looks, you can instead focus on performing well, making friends, and improving skills.

Mirror, mirror on the wall: taking a look at self-confidence | Hany Zerbib | TEDxPineCrestSchool

Be your own cheerleader

Problem

You might be feeling low and discouraged because you’re not being your own biggest cheerleader. Always talking down to ourselves destroys our inner confidence and makes us feel bad about ourselves.

Why it is bad

You’ll never be confident if you’re constantly engaging in negative self-talk - telling yourself that you’re no good. Remember, we believe what we repeatedly tell ourselves.

Solution

Stop the negative commentary and start cheering yourself on! Whether it’s a big or small achievement, talk yourself up! Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer for yourself. If you’re in need of encouragement, tell yourself: “I’ve got this!”. Make a habit of it!

Benefits

We become what we tell ourselves we are and we achieve only what we tell ourselves we can. So, when we switch from being our own critic to our own cheerleader, we feel better and our self-esteem soars! By replacing negative self-talk with more positive self-talk, you’ll feel more in control and more confident overall.

Be Your Own Cheerleader | Pastor Steven Furtick

Focus on what you can control

Problem

Much of the time, we base our self-confidence on things that are out of our control. You might feel anxious and uncertain when you choose to focus only on the things you can’t control in a given situation.

Why it is bad

You might invest too much energy into what others think of you, the outcome of a particular situation, or your peers’ reactions to you. This can make us feel unstable and out of control, which is not conducive to confidence.

Solution

You must base your self-confidence on the things you do have control over. If you’re anxious about a presentation, for example, focus on what you can control: how prepared you are, your passion for the topic, and the amount of effort you put into it. Repeatedly remind yourself of these things until they become your new belief.

Benefits

Releasing our attachment to things we can’t control builds self-confidence. And by grounding yourself in the things you can control, you gain stability. If you start building confidence in areas where you have control, you ensure that you continue to build confidence from a place of inner strength.

Stop Worrying About Things You Can't Control

Surround yourself with positive people

Problem

You might be feeling poorly about yourself because you spend time with negative, judgemental people.

Why it is bad

The people you surround yourself with influence your thoughts, attitudes, and behaviour. If you feel bad about yourself after you hang out with friends, you’re probably hanging out with the wrong people.

Solution

Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, want the best for you, and build you up instead of tearing you down. Say goodbye to those negative people - or just stop hanging out with them - and start making new friends. Aim to find friends who are positive and supportive.

Benefits

Surrounding yourself with the right people uplifts you. Your social circle affects your attitude. When others are accepting of you and have a positive attitude, it rubs off on you - meaning you’re more likely to have a positive attitude and accept yourself.

People will either INSPIRE you or DRAIN you - Choose carefully

Sometimes You Outgrow People (Surround Yourself With The Right People)

Take a break from social media

Problem

Spending too much time on social media can make you feel bad about yourself and damage your self-worth. You might be trying to live up to a false version of yourself. This can cause your self-confidence to plummet.

Why it is bad

Constantly comparing yourself to others on social media can lead to low self-esteem. People tend to show only the positive and share the best photos of themselves on social media, and when we compare ourselves to what we see on these platforms, it can make us feel inferior or inadequate.

Solution

To combat these feelings, delete all the social media apps from your phone, deactivate your accounts, and take some time away from them. Start small - give yourself a few days or a week - and gradually build up to longer periods. Take regular breaks to get back in touch with yourself.

Benefits

Getting off social media for periods of time allows you to reconnect with your true self. It frees you from always trying to impress others and live up to a false self. It’s healthy to take a break from all the unrealistic comparisons and put all your energy into yourself!

6 Months Without Social Media As A Gen Z

Smile when you’re in a stressful situation

Problem

You could be lacking confidence or certainty in stressful situations because you’re simply not smiling enough.

Why it is bad

In stressful moments, our heart rate increases, we feel nervous and unsure, and we start to doubt ourselves. If you succumb to this negative bodily response, you will feel even more uncertain and insecure.

Solution

So, smile! If you’re in a stressful situation, just smile. If it’s inappropriate for the moment, obviously don’t smile. But, if you’re facing difficult circumstances, a tough decision, or uncertainty, put a smile on. Even if you have to fake it, smile through it. If you’re uncomfortable in an interview or with coworkers, flash a smile.

Benefits

The physical act of smiling helps lower heart rate levels and leads to more positive emotions overall. Smiling triggers your brain to feel more secure and relaxed. A smile tells people you’re happy, friendly, and confident - even if you’re faking it.

The hidden power of smiling | Ron Gutman

The Major Benefits of Smiling More Often

Say "No" to the things you don’t want to do

Problem

You might be too afraid to say “no” to certain things that you don’t want to do. You’re putting yourself in situations that kill your confidence.

Why it is bad

Even though it’s good to get outside your comfort zone, when you take part in activities that tend to zap your self-confidence, you feel worse rather than better. You also betray yourself by crossing your own boundaries.

Solution

Set firm social and emotional boundaries to help you feel safer, and stick to them! The next time someone suggests doing something that’ll lower your confidence, respectfully decline. You don’t need to come up with an excuse or reason, just let them know you’re not comfortable or not up to it at this time.

Benefits

Holding personal boundaries, and being able to say no, makes you feel more in control. And having a sense of control over your life develops self-confidence.

Accept compliments and praise

Problem

Shrugging off praise and downplaying compliments could be contributing to your lack of self-confidence and self-worth.

Why it is bad

If you can’t accept a compliment or praise, you miss out on opportunities to appreciate yourself and develop self-confidence. You’re also refusing to see the good in yourself.

Solution

When someone pays you a compliment or praises you, accept it with grace. Take the time to really think about what was said and allow yourself to feel genuinely good about it. Keep a mental list of the kind things people have said to you and remind yourself of that list whenever you’re feeling down about yourself.

Benefits

Accepting compliments builds self-esteem and self-worth. Compliments feed the best parts of ourselves; they help us see the good we have within ourselves. Having the good in ourselves reinforced by others uplights us and helps us overcome self-defeating activities.

Is it Hard for You to Accept Compliments?

Why Do I Feel Uncomfortable When Someone Compliments Me? | Chronic Illness Therapist

Prepare & practice for things when you’re lacking confidence

Problem

You might lack the belief in your ability to accomplish something if you don’t prepare for it or practice.

Why it is bad

You cannot rely on your natural talents alone when it comes to your ability to succeed and feel confident. If you’re not prepared, you won’t have any confidence in yourself to move forward or succeed.

Solution

Always be preparing. Develop your skills before you need them. Look ahead, see what you need to prepare for - both at and outside of work - and practice, practice, practice. Dress rehearsals aren’t just for actors. If you’re nervous or dreading a task or responsibility, practice it beforehand.

Benefits

Being prepared for the task at hand - whether it’s a presentation or asking for a promotion - will boost your confidence and improve the quality of your work. Going into the situation, you’ll feel more sure of your ability to succeed, and you’ll be able to look back and be proud.

Practice visualization

Problem

If you can’t even imagine yourself doing something successfully or achieving your goals, you probably won’t.

Why it is bad

When you’re already lacking confidence or if you feel intimidated to do something, being unable to visualize yourself doing it - and doing it well - won’t allow you to build any confidence in yourself.

Solution

To boost confidence in yourself, set a specific goal, then, in as much detail as possible, imagine you’ve achieved it. Add in a positive affirmation, and do this exercise right before bed. You can even look in a mirror so you can actually tell yourself what and how you’ll accomplish your goal and why you’re so awesome.

Benefits

Mental practices like visualization where you picture yourself acing that test or rocking that presentation can improve self-image and increase confidence. Visualizing helps you prepare yourself for success while also developing conviction and self-confidence.

Make eye contact

Problem

Avoiding making eye contact when speaking with someone could be diminishing your confidence and amplifying your insecurities.

Why it is bad

Eye contact affects how you’re perceived by other people, both personally and professionally. A lack of eye contact might make people think you’re untrustworthy and insecure. You probably are low on confidence, and avoiding eye contact won’t help you build any.

Solution

If you struggle to make eye contact, try to make it a habit in your daily life. Start with looking someone in the eye for a few seconds, then the nose, then the whole face. People will think you’re looking them in the eye. Practice with people who make you feel less anxious, and even characters on TV.

Benefits

Eye contact hides insecurities and leaves you feeling more confident. Eye contact establishes a connection, shows sincerity, and creates a sense of trust between people - all of which will make you feel more confident about yourself.

Video For Practicing Eye Contact - FOUR Difficulty Levels

Use powerful language

Problem

You might lack confidence and strength because you’re using weak language. Poor body language and words of doubt could be causing you to feel unsure of yourself.

Why it is bad

If you’re not choosing the right words, it negatively affects your ability to overcome obstacles and feel capable and confident. When you portray yourself in a weak manner, you will feel weak and others will see you that way too.

Solution

Speak to yourself and others using powerful language. When you set goals, write: “I will reach this goal by the end of the month.” Ask yourself “How can I?” instead of “Why can’t I?”. Eliminate minimizing words. Try to avoid fillers like “uh” and “um” in conversations. And stand in a confident, powerful posture.

Benefits

This kind of language makes us feel and sound more confident. A confident stance and expression, when accompanied by statements that are certain, convey strength and assuredness.

Everything About You Speaks! Powerful Language of Visual Cues | Kristina Pernfors | TEDxVeroBeach

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Do you feel anxious?

Anxiety

That sense of dread as you’re going about your day to day activities. That feeling that makes your heart pound and your palms sweat. If you’ve felt this way before, then you’ve probably experienced anxiety. Anxiety makes it hard to focus on anything other than your fears. And the thing about fears: The more you worry about them, the bigger they appear and the worse you feel.

The good news is that there is a solution, right for you. You can free yourself from the endless thought-spiraling and live a present-focused life. Our strategies for anxiety will help you to overcome your fears and discover a sense of inner calm so that you can take any of life’s challenges in your stride. Learn how to positively re-engage with life and find fulfillment in your work and relationships again.

Are you assertive?

Become assertive

Do you find it hard to say no to requests from friends and family, no matter how unreasonable they are? Do you constantly put other people’s needs above your own? Are you scared to say what you truly think and feel because of how others might react? Then you may lack skills in assertiveness.

Assertiveness is an important skill to learn because without it, you risk being taken advantage of by others. We have put together a series of videos that will train you in becoming more assertive. With our assertiveness strategies, you’ll feel empowered to ask for what you need and want, and to put yourself first for a change. You’ll gain the courage to say no, and you’ll learn how to set healthy boundaries in your relationships.

Do you feel depressed?

Depression

You’re alive but you’re not living. It feels like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and you’re exhausted. The feelings of sadness, worthlessness and guilt are impossible to shake. Your negative emotions are so consuming that it’s hard to be motivated to do anything, and nothing brings you joy anyway. This is how it feels to be depressed.

But there is hope for you if you struggle with depression. That hope starts with our carefully selected, science-backed strategies for depression. Our strategies will equip you with the tools you need to relieve the intense emotional pain you’re feeling. You’ll learn how to manage your strong, negative emotions so that they lose their grip over you. Over time, your enthusiasm for life will return as you rediscover and experience true joy once again.

Do you lack motivation?

Motivation

Is it hard for you to get started when you have important tasks to do? And do you find it challenging to finish what you’ve started? Being unmotivated can interfere with your work, studies, and everyday life. So, how do you get motivated to do things that feel difficult, boring, or unpleasant?

No matter what is making you feel unmotivated, you can be sure to find some tips on our platform that will work for you. Our tips will help change the way you think about and approach the tasks you have to do. Equipped with a positive mindset and some novel approaches, you can finally say goodbye to procrastination for good.

Do you struggle with productivity and focus?

Productivity

Have you ever thought that there just aren’t enough hours in the day? If you find it difficult to keep up with life’s demands, you’re not alone. We live in a fast-paced world that is full of distractions. From one moment to the next we have to decide where to focus our attention. If we’re not careful, we can turn our attention to the wrong things and lose a lot of time. Lost time can quickly turn into stress over missed deadlines and pressure to do things at the last minute.

You can find solutions to problems with focus and productivity on our platform. Our strategies will help you be more intentional with how you plan your time and your work. Being strategic about how you spend your work hours, and how you approach your work, will allow you to get much more done more efficiently.

Do you struggle with time management?

Time Management

Do you wake up most mornings feeling unprepared for the day ahead? Do you tend to put off important tasks till the last minute? And do you work overtime to avoid missing important deadlines? Poor time management can cause problems in your work and personal life and cause undue stress.

Fortunately, good time management is something that can be taught and we’ve got lots of helpful strategies for you to try. Our strategies for time management will help you get organized so that you feel prepared and motivated to tackle the tasks that each new day brings. You’ll benefit from more personal time and less stress, and you’ll feel empowered having successfully completed what you need to do on time.

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Take action to feel competent

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Be accountable

Learn something new

Talk to strangers when you’re feeling insecure

Drop the gender stereotypes

Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable

Conquer a personal challenge

Create powerful requests

Eliminate blame

Set goals to boost feeling of self-worth

Be brutally honest with yourself

Do things you are good at

Embrace your superstitions and rituals

Reflect on your accomplishments

Dress to impress yourself

Practice empathy

Avoid the mirror

Be your own cheerleader

Focus on what you can control

Surround yourself with positive people

Take a break from social media

Smile when you’re in a stressful situation

Say "No" to the things you don’t want to do

Accept compliments and praise

Prepare & practice for things when you’re lacking confidence

Practice visualization

Make eye contact

Use powerful language

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